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May. 7th, 2011 06:07 pmhttp://www.melonfarmers.co.uk/parl.htm#Abstaining_from_the_Real_World_5702
Not wanting to appear too acquiescent with a person who strikes me as incredibly disagreeable, I find myself wholeheartedly agreeing with something Mrs. Dorries probably did not mean to say.
Let's start with the rather obvious: The intention to only target young women with your scheme speaks of a worldview that is somewhere between antiquated and downright stupid. Certainly, the prospect of having your womb occupied for the better part of the year as well as the discomfort that is bound to ensue in the subsequent birthing proceedings are a powerful incentive for a woman (of any age) to regulate access to her genitals responsibly. On the other hand, there is this recurring feeling/thought I have that suggests that an owner and habitual deployer of semen should handle said organ and fluid in an equally responsible manner. That incidentally goes for men of all creeds.
I love imagining a little very eager Mary-Whitehouse-clone sitting there with a stopwatch and a calculator to come up with these numbers.
Incidentally, while I fully agree that the commercialised sexualisation of women, young girls, paerhaps even people is a worrying and disagreeable trend, I continue to wonder why it's always the "sexual" part that is seen as the problem, and never the "commercialised". And if you feel that there may be too much sex in "society's consciousness", I am not sure if school sex ed. material really is the first thing to cut in order to reduce this amount.
Young people will feel eager to fuck whether they hear about it in school or see it on telly or not. Having genitals and a shitload of hormones will soon make sure of that. It is quite possible and even somewhat likely that having some detailed lessons about the whole topic in school will even make them more interested and/or eager but that difference is bound to be marginal and at least they will be considerably better informed when taking the plunge than members of their age-bracket who grew up in less informative circumstances.
It just occured to me that I have been cheated most severely. You see, getting my license for driving a car took a long time and involved many, many lessons. Yet, at no point during it was I taught that for some journeys I might be better off walking or riding a bike. God knows why I hardly drive anywhere these days.
Sex Ed should tell you about having sex. Making you secure enough in yourself and your choices and guiding you in making up your mind is something that one would hope is an integral part of the whole school business and hopefully also part of what parents try to instill. Handling peer pressure is a bastard and the average teen will make a fair few "wrong" decisions because of it, but that is a general issue, far from only related to sexual matters.
Abstinence works, you know. It can really keep you safe from getting pregnant and all the STDs you cannot catch from a toilet seat. It will not save you from relationship mistakes, unless of course it is relationships you are abstaining from. As for your self respect, see above. I remain convinced you can fuck somebody very respectfully, just as under certain circumstances not having sex with somebody means disrespecting both yourself and the other person(s).
For this is the way to develop self-respect: Blindly following what somebody else said. This may well be to most inane sentence of the whole piece.
Not wanting to appear too acquiescent with a person who strikes me as incredibly disagreeable, I find myself wholeheartedly agreeing with something Mrs. Dorries probably did not mean to say.
Let's start with the rather obvious: The intention to only target young women with your scheme speaks of a worldview that is somewhere between antiquated and downright stupid. Certainly, the prospect of having your womb occupied for the better part of the year as well as the discomfort that is bound to ensue in the subsequent birthing proceedings are a powerful incentive for a woman (of any age) to regulate access to her genitals responsibly. On the other hand, there is this recurring feeling/thought I have that suggests that an owner and habitual deployer of semen should handle said organ and fluid in an equally responsible manner. That incidentally goes for men of all creeds.
Dame Joan said that our society is saturated in sex: a typical prime-time hour on TV contains 2.6 references to intercourse, 1.2 references to prostitution and rape, and 4.7 sexual innuendoes.
I love imagining a little very eager Mary-Whitehouse-clone sitting there with a stopwatch and a calculator to come up with these numbers.
Incidentally, while I fully agree that the commercialised sexualisation of women, young girls, paerhaps even people is a worrying and disagreeable trend, I continue to wonder why it's always the "sexual" part that is seen as the problem, and never the "commercialised". And if you feel that there may be too much sex in "society's consciousness", I am not sure if school sex ed. material really is the first thing to cut in order to reduce this amount.
Young people will feel eager to fuck whether they hear about it in school or see it on telly or not. Having genitals and a shitload of hormones will soon make sure of that. It is quite possible and even somewhat likely that having some detailed lessons about the whole topic in school will even make them more interested and/or eager but that difference is bound to be marginal and at least they will be considerably better informed when taking the plunge than members of their age-bracket who grew up in less informative circumstances.
One factor constantly ignored by society is that peer pressure is a key contributor to early sexualised activity among the children of our country. Society is focused on sex. Our sex education teaches children how to have sex, not how to say no to sex.
It just occured to me that I have been cheated most severely. You see, getting my license for driving a car took a long time and involved many, many lessons. Yet, at no point during it was I taught that for some journeys I might be better off walking or riding a bike. God knows why I hardly drive anywhere these days.
Sex Ed should tell you about having sex. Making you secure enough in yourself and your choices and guiding you in making up your mind is something that one would hope is an integral part of the whole school business and hopefully also part of what parents try to instill. Handling peer pressure is a bastard and the average teen will make a fair few "wrong" decisions because of it, but that is a general issue, far from only related to sexual matters.
In our sex education programmes, we need to promote the notion of abstinence and all the advantages that it brings, such as self-respect and not making relationship mistakes.
Abstinence works, you know. It can really keep you safe from getting pregnant and all the STDs you cannot catch from a toilet seat. It will not save you from relationship mistakes, unless of course it is relationships you are abstaining from. As for your self respect, see above. I remain convinced you can fuck somebody very respectfully, just as under certain circumstances not having sex with somebody means disrespecting both yourself and the other person(s).
It [abstinence] has to be taught alongside everything else so that young girls can say, I have been told to say no.
For this is the way to develop self-respect: Blindly following what somebody else said. This may well be to most inane sentence of the whole piece.
